Hello! I don’t even know where to start. A year ago I left an abusive 18 year relationship and have started on this healing journey to find myself after so many years…sad at 51, yet here I am. I have come to realize I just don’t fit in with the society around me, everyone is so fake and I’m tired, so tired of having no support because everyone wants to bury their heads in the sand with distractions of substances and every other thing society shoves at us…leaving me alone because nobody I know wants to do anything but distract from their lives then come to me for comfort, but nobody is there for me because they are too busy distracting themselves…when I am always there for them because I have blocked out every distraction to work on myself. I am looking for a community that I can contribute to, that will surround me with the support that I surround everyone else with. I’m so tired of this fake world of make believe that everyone lives in. I was trying to go back to school online after being a stay at home mom for so long, but I can’t continue to live like this, it’s no life…I live in such a rural area that the only thing people do here is drink, drugs and sleep with each other…long story, but I’m open and honest.
<3 hope you found somewhere
Let me know if you find that place. I frankly don’t think it has ever existed. People are still living out the lives that their television and radio pop culture idols portrayed for them instead of thinking outside of the world. As the Bible says. You can not serve two masters. You’ll love one and hate the other. 99% of people are serving everything except for their Father in heaven. Well the Bible also talks about the end times and everything it says that would start happening has started to happen. You can believe it or not believe it. But the end is coming either way. Those that follow him will have salvation and those that don’t will fall into the pit. It’s just what it is. It’s not me trying to say I know more than anyone else. The proof is in the pudding and all we have to do is look around to see that proof. The kingdom of heaven is inside of us. We can’t look to outward sources like having faith in other people for what we need. We have to go back to the one who made us and the one who loves us more than anyone could ever love anyone. Peace be with you.
Yes media does push its agenda and it works, unfortunately, by promoting unhealthy lifestyles based on consumerism (physically, mentally, and spiritually) and not creative works and sharing. There are communities here that live outside that focus but you’ll have to sift through those that wouldn’t work for you. You’ll always have to deal with boundaries on an individual basis to push back on those people who push you too far timewise and mentally, but some communities will have better structures than others for supporting you when it comes to members violating boundaries. You’ve sparked a great question though - what to ask each community to explore that particular situation.
Hello darktragedy. It sounds like you’ve really tried to be supportive to others, and you’re frustrated that others aren’t there for you during a difficult time. Maybe that’s passed by now. It sounds like you’ve tried making friends locally and you’re lonely. Obviously you have found the FIC and probably searched their directory. Maybe you’ve tried service clubs, social groups, or churches already. If that’s the case, here’s a site I hope can help you find even one other person in your area who could develop a mutually supportive relationship with you. It’s free to search, get matched, and chat. https://icmatch.org/members/